Asexual Elitism

It bothers me when I hear some asexual saying that they feel like they’re somehow above sexual people because they have no interest in sex. Um… what?

Usually, I’ve noticed, this attitude is held by asexuals who are disgusted by sex. And it makes sense that the two would go hand-in-hand, because it’s usually the disgusted ones who are the most sex-negative, and the most likely to adopt a dichotomous, divisive way of thinking. Not that this is always true, of course; some disgusted A’s still manage to maintain a sex-positive attitude.

I’ve seen all manner of different kinds of claims about how asexuals are better than sexuals, but the one that gets me most is the claim that asexuals are more intelligent than sexuals. There seem to be a lot of imagined correlations (not even false correlations, because there hasn’t been any research yet to create those, as far as I know, unless you count Bogaert’s census study, which is probably highly inaccurate) about asexuality floating around out there, but even if there were a study that found that asexuals had a statistically significant, overall higher level of intelligence than sexuals (and assuming that this study took into consideration possible false correlations such as the intersection between asexuals and people who like to spend a lot of time on internet forums), why get all elitist about it? In truth, such a correlation could possibly exist, we don’t know; but even if it did, it doesn’t mean that we are all smarter than all sexuals. In fact, by taking an elitist attitude, you would be proving yourself to be unable to grasp what correlations actually mean, and thus… You’d look stupid.

Another form of asexual elitism worth mentioning is when people say that asexual love seems more pure or true, but I think Spin from already has that topic covered. ;)

2 thoughts on “Asexual Elitism

  1. I wonder how prevalent this attitude is; I’ve never experienced it from any of the aces I’ve met in “real life”. Online, sure, I see it occasionally, but people are always apt to convey more extreme opinions when they’re anonymous. Maybe some of this online talk comes from the fact that (and my personal experience backs this up) that AVEN is the most civil forum most of us have ever encountered. But this speaks as much to the dedication of the moderators as it does to anything else.


  2. Actually, now that you mention it, I’ve seen this attitude more often from jealous non-asexuals than asexuals, in real life anyway. But that’s really because I hardly have any RL friends who are fellow asexuals. I’ve seen it noised about in asexual communities from time to time too, on AVEN and elsewhere, but I think (or I hope; I wouldn’t know since I stopped lurking a while back) at least on AVEN anyone posting with that kind of attitude generally does get disillusioned relatively quickly.


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