Well, it’s now June 1st, which means that it’s time to wrap up this round of the Carnival of Aces and start another one!
The topic I chose for this month was Nuance & Complexity, a very broad topic which had a lot of good responses on a wide range of subjects. Thank you to everyone who submitted, you’ve all made this a very interesting month!
Without further ado, here are the submissions:
- Lijavi Toledo Loaiza wrote about sensual attraction, aesthetic attraction, and sex repulsion and how these things play into each other in a way that makes it difficult to find a place in the ace community in Sensual vs Sexual.
- I wrote about being both bi (but not biromantic) and ace in a two-part series.
- Part One: Scrutiny About Attraction and the Kinsey Scale (here on Prismatic Entanglements) discusses the assumptions, misconceptions, and scrutiny that makes this intersection so difficult to inhabit and discuss.
- Part Two: Aesthetic Attraction and the Visual-Aural Gender Split (here on Prismatic Entanglements) discusses how my attractions to men tend to be different from my attractions to women (and others) in that they are primarily sound-based, and how that has been confusing and frustrating because aural attraction gets so little recognition, in both the ace and bi communities.
- Lib wrote about how identifying as asexual, aromantic, and agender feels like having iconic holes in “Filling in the Blanks“. There’s also good stuff in there about what it means to be a good ally, and considering the “best friend” role as another hole that doesn’t need to be filled.
- Blue Ice-Tea wrote about demisexuality and unwanted celibacy in Asexual, Allosexual, and Other Labels that Don’t Quite Fit. Content warning: this post discusses incels and misogynist violence.
- Sara K. wrote about terms that describe various nuances of being ace in Why Are There So Many Terms – and Why I Am Finding Them Less Useful.
- Varian wrote about being being on the “outside edge” of the queer community, the pagan/polytheist community, and the godspouse community in My Spiritual Path.
- Perfect Number wrote about getting out of Christian purity culture and having conflicted thoughts/feelings about sex in Confusing and Weird.
- Siggy wrote about how aces perceive and distinguish emotions in Attraction and emotional granularity (here on A Trivial Knot).
- Patience wrote a guest post about being multilingual and lacking natural, native-language words to talk about asexuality in From a non-English ace.
- Demi and Proud wrote about dating, romantic orientation, nuances of language, and more in Ride that Rollercoaster!
- Bianca (bijelo9) wrote about self-discovery and beginning to identify as asexual, aromantic and agender/flux in I’m me (And that’s complicated).
- Vesper wrote about the difficulties of navigating both the anglophone and the Japanese ace communities, especially with regard to terminology and a lack of consideration for grayness and the full spectrum of ace and aro identities in landscapes and fissures: navigating ace terminology in Japanese & English.
- luvtheheaven wrote about virginity, sex aversion, and identity in An Asexual Virginity (or Lack Thereof?)
…and that’s all, folks!
Remember, if you have a late submission, you can still be included! Just drop a link to your submission in the comments below, and I’ll edit this post to add it in. I’ll be accepting late submissions until the end of June.
If you’d like to volunteer to host a round, please check out the Carnival of Aces masterpost. As of the last time I checked, future spots for July and later are still open.