I know several of you are anxiously awaiting the results of the survey, but I want to hold off on that because there are still people actively taking it (plus, writing about the results takes a fair bit of time). As of right now, I have 263 responses, 243 of which are complete. I’m kind of hoping to get as close as possible to 300 finished responses.
In the meantime, I thought I’d try out the poll feature on here. And since Valentine’s day is tomorrow, let’s go with that.
Personally, I’m not too into the idea of Valentine’s Day in its traditional Hallmark form. In high school, it used to bother me how it was used mainly as a competition: who could get/give the biggest, flashiest, most expensive gift? Of course this was somewhere in Texas, where Valentine’s Day is rivaled only by the horrors of Homecoming (for those of you who don’t get the reference, I google image searched a demonstration–and the scariest thing is, I’ve seen bigger).
Aside from my qualms with the superficial aspect of Valentine’s Day, I have qualms about the kind of expectations it sets up. I don’t want a day specifically set aside for romance, because I wouldn’t want to be disappointed when my lover didn’t come through. I also don’t want my lover to be disappointed when, following their grand romantic gesture, sex doesn’t ensue.
Personally, I advocate making every day like Valentine’s Day, or at least a few days a month. I prefer months of steady, low-key, everyday romance over flowers and candies and candle-lit dinners, and I’d rather be a prince myself than wait for one.
This Valentine’s Day will be the first one that I have actually been in a long-term relationship during, without it being coincidental with another holiday (my ex was born on the 14th–and if you ever read this and recognize me for who I am, happy birthday). It’s the same for my gf, and for a while now, we’ve both been like, “Eh, I don’t know what we should do for it. I don’t really care… but I kind of want to? Because I’ve never done it before.”
We decided to just attend the Vagina Monologues, being the good feminists that we are, and screw any attempt at gift-giving or dates. We’ve got that covered anyway.